my self self self notes... hehehehe....

1. self-esteem -consists of self-worth and self-competence...
2. self-image is automatic guidance system that programs us either towards failure or success...
3. self-awareness - individual conscious of some aspects of reality realted to oneself....
4. self-acceptance - loving yourself while acknowledging your shortcomings or limitations.... 
5. self confidence- feeling or showing firm trust in one's abilities 
6. shyness - social anxiety where individual might experience a range of feelings from mild anxiety in the presence of others to unreasonable fear of people... 
7. self-discipline- focusing one's attention on important activities until it is completed without any distraction...
8. perseverance- continuous  effort applied to attaining a goal without giving up until you succeed...

how can we enhance self-esteem?? :P

there are 5 steps in enhancing self-esteem... catch up guys! :D

 
1. gaining self- awareness

• we should know who we really are
• then, we should break ourselves free from false beliefs 
• to add, we should reflect upon our purpose in life 

2. learning self-acceptance

• we should respect ourselves
• we should accept ourselves unconditionally 

3. taking charge of your life 

• we should assume self-responsibility 
• we should develop our personal mission statement and goals
• we should then formulate our action plans or also known as strategy 

4. taking action 

• now, we have to execute our action plans 
• we should also manage our time successfully 
• we must maintain our self-discipline 
• and also maintain our perseverance 

5. monitoring progress 

• review progress towards attainment of your goals 
• taking corrective action

         

one painful day... huhu...

im so tired today.. my day is filled with lots of work to do and 2 subjects to study and memorise in 2 days! huhuhuhu.. its so tiring but adventuring! i love it but im kind of tired.. huhuhu...

by the way, one thing i want to share with you guys.... today, the girl in my love story met her loved ones again... he said hi to her and she said hi back.. but she cried in her soul because deep in her heart, she still love him and still kept thinking bout him.. she still can't leave him... huhu.. pity this girl... only she knows how she felt and how she has to pretend to be happy with someone else just to make that guy forget about her... somehow, she really wish that one day that guy will accept her sorry... huhuh... that's all for now.. till then! daaa... ;)  

my lovestory... mind to read! :D

what is love really?? huhu.. 

is love being created just to hurt people's feelings? huhu... 

here's my story about love... 

for me, love is something sweet and something that will never fade away... love is a feeling that can conquer everything and helps us to face our problems in life after Allah, Rasul and our parents.. love does'nt mean we will have to own the person we love... 

huhu... 

once upon a time, there was a young ordinary girl who befriends with a very cute matured guy... they really loved being friends with each other... they always spend time together... they go for movies together, launch and dinner together and even karaoke together... they had so much fun when they are together... they can't even face a day without spending time with each other.. they often try to find a reason for them to meet each other... the guy was very sweet and honest with the girl.. he even told her that he already has a girlfriend but he really2 wished that he could still be close to her even just as a friend. 1 day they realized they had fallen for each other... they became closer to each other and drowned into love... unfortunately, he already has a girlfriend that he will never leave... the girl felt very happy and perfect when he is with her even though deep in her heart, she realized that the guy has already have someone special in his life... every time she realized the fact that he belongs to someone else, she will feel the pain more and more and cried by herself... the guy will never understand how she feel.. she's so madly in love with someone's boyfriend! that totally hurts... the girl was very disappointed with that guy until she decides to back off and start her new life... but, the guy refuses to let her go because he said that he loves her more than his girlfriend and that he really needs her in his life.. but why can't he choose between the girl and his girlfriend? that's the question that is always in her mind all day,a ll night.... so, now, the girl is trying to start her new life without him... she realized her mistake for loving someone's boyfriend.. she really felt sorry for his girlfriend.. she just wish that he will always be happy with his girlfriend and live happily ever after... the end... 

from this lovestory, i personally think that love needs sacrifice... if we love someone, we should let them go for the sake of their own happiness... love means seeing the person we care happy with his or her life.. ;) 

sincerely for the bottom of my heart.... 

aafaff amelia

why i love barbie so much??

here's the reason why i love barbie so much! hehehe... 

first of all, she's beautiful.. she's hot.. she's so fashionable.. and she's gorgeous in whatever she wears... her fashion is always the hottest  for me! and guess what??  i got proves for that... :P ehehe.... watch these pictures... enjoy! :)

 

 

my beloved babies pictures!

 

 

my beloved niece and nephew... :D

my niece and nephew...

my niece, adrianna... she is very cute and adorable.. hehehe.. she loves to turn her body to 90 degrees... she loves to cry cutely.. :) she also love to make cute sounds that sometimes sounds like a kitten... hahahax! i love her so muich! she is 5 months now.. i promise to me that when she grow up soon, i'll teach her to play barbie doll and dress like a barbie like me! hehehe.. i'll make sure she always look beautiful like barbie... :)


my nephew, adrish, the son of pakistani... haha! he has a very beautiful eyes... he's naughty and factly understand people's words... for instance, if i ask him to smile, he'll smile... hehe! love him too!!

they are both gorgeous and adorable! i pray that they'll grew up to be the best students of all and be a good person to everybody.. :) they are... my babies!! :)

How to Ask a Guy Out? (for girls only... :P)

Passively waiting for a hottie to make a move is simply not acceptable behavior for a fearless person like yourself. Sure, it can be a little intimidating to approach a dude, but it puts you in control of your dating destiny, and besides, guys really like it. "Men find it refreshing when a female asks them out," Says an author of The Dating Cure. "Beyond that, it's empowering for the woman. Some tips for taking this bold step.

Buy Him a Drink
If a guy catches your eye while you’re out with friends, send over a beer. Since it forces him to make the next move and say thank you, it’s a stealth way of letting him know you're interested.

Suggest a Super Guy-Friendly Outing
Try to gauge what the guy you've set your sights on is into. Here's how... :P As you're chatting him up, ask him what he did over the weekend. Then, casually suggest something similar such as whether he is going to hang out with friends or going for a movie for the following Friday.

Invite Him on a Group Date
If you can't quite bring yourself to suggest solo time together, try inviting him out with a bunch of your friends which will make you feel more at ease....

If You Lose Your Nerve...
Really can't bring yourself to invite a dude out? Then give him the green light to ask you. After flirting for a bit say something like, "Have you heard about this new movie? I've been dying to see it." It will give him the perfect opportunity to suggest you see it together and because you've hinted at what you want to do, it takes some of the planning pressure off him.

Perfect! hehe! try it.. you'll love it.. ;)

idea by,

aafaff amelia

how to self-motivate when no one knows? hmm... :D

Staying on task without support from your friends and family might sound impossible, but there are some easy, tried-and-true ways to do it. There's something called the fantasy realization theory that has proven to help people attain whatever they want. The gist is that you must fantasize about your goal on a regular basis such as think about all the awesome consequences of achieving it.

Then think about all the negative things you'll have to deal with along the way such as sacrificing time with friends, paying for expensive classes and stuffs. Often, people think about only either the really good stuff or the terrible stuff.

But by considering both, you make the fantasy more realistic, and it will seem more attainable. Not only that, but it also helps you plan exactly which steps you need to take to get there.

Surrounding yourself with people who have some connection to your dream is also sure to push you forward. For instance, if you want to get into the fashion industry, you should schedule lots of time with fashion designers or models. They may not know what you're trying to do, but being around them will keep your eyes on the prize. ;)

honestly by,

aafaff amelia

Your Boyfriend Is Cheating on You! say it if you love your friend.. huhu...

No friend wants to be the bearer of this bad news.... ;) But consider this... Imagine how you’d feel if your boyfriend was involved with other people and you discovered your close friend was with holding that information from you... Not only would you lose the trust you had for your partner, but now it’s also been severed with the friend.

Telling what you know is a sign of respect....

Begin by asking her questions about her relationship. “How are you feeling about him?” “Do you sense that you can trust him?” Get her to explore her feelings and instincts. If she doesn’t already have her own suspicions, she’s bound to ask where you’re going with this.

Take a deep breath and explain that you feel compelled to tell her something, even though you know it will upset her. Be sure to explain your rationale as to why you’re sharing this piece of what’s certain to be devastating news....

Be prepared with...

She may very well lash out at you once she hears it. If she does, remind her of your pure motives. The friendship will only be damaged if it wasn’t a strong friendship to begin with.

so, it's a good thing to tell if you really love your friend and cares for her.. ;) and as a matter of facts, if she is a good friend, she'll think carefully before reacting and lash out at you... ;)

honestly advised by,

aafaff

if we're not that into him, say it.. be honest! :P

We should be honest with the guy who approaches us.. We should ask ourselves questions like " am i really falling for him or hanging in there just because i don't want to be single? "..

i know its sounds funny and ridiculous to ask that kind of question to yourself, but it's the truth and it's fact! haha! Think twice girls! What are you doing in this relationship? Does it really have a future? Think people! think! :)

Have you ever think? If you're really into him, you would have thought about him almost every minutes right? besides, if you really love him, you would have speak his name almost to everyone in everything you say.. am i right? :)

So, girls, think properly. If you think that you are not that into him, be honest with him. Don't tell lies. Cause you'll never know how those lies could hurt their feelings.. Even though we feel like guys sometimes do not have feelings if we break their heart, think twice ok? guys are also a human being. they too feels the pain of being hurt.

i say this cause i had enough experiences with guys. they are sometimes nice and makes us melt. but girls, that does'nt mean you have to be into him. maybe they just love being friends with you. so, my advice is, be honest.. say it if you think you are not that into him.. that's the best way for a friendship to be develop.. ;)

me, my family and I...

hi.. im aafaff amelia.. u can call me aafaff..

well.. this would be my first time of writting my own blog.. hahax!

hmm.. im a student in uitm kampus bandar melaka..

im a degree student.. im taking degree in insurance... kind of fun! :)

im 20 years old.. single.. haha! i love doing new things and finish my time with my families and studies.. i love my "baby"... my beloved friend, syafiq had gave me a rabbit as a present and we named her baby dania... :) she's adorable...!

i have 4 siblings and i would be the last child in my family. :)

my father, Prof. Dr. Amir Hussin b. Baharuddin was a lecturer economic in USM, penang..

my mother, Awateff bt. Hj. MD Khalil is a housewife. hmm.. what else to tell about my family? :)

my eldest brother, Amir Aatieff is married to Nor Syuhada bt. Zaaba and blessed with one daughter named, Adrianna Zafira... she's very adorable and cute.. :) i'll tell you more stories about her later.. :P

my one and only sister, Aalia Amira is married to a Pakistan guy, Muhammad Atif Sanaullah Tarar whom she has met when she was still studying in Ukraine as a medical student. they were also blessed with one son named, Amir Adrish Tarar... he is also extremely cute and handsome.. i'll add his picture in my blog.. :)

my third sibling is my brother, Amir Aarieff. he is a very nice brother... he is very sporting and loving brother. he is still single and had just finished his degree in Animation in UniKL. he is good in everything.... he always helps me up if i need any help.. ;)

so, the conclusion is, i love my family so much! and we are a one big happy family! :P

by the way, why my blog's name is Barbie Lover?? hahahaha... the answer is because i am crazily and madly in love with barbie.. :) she's totally hot and fashionable for me.. i know im kind of childish for liking barbie but for me, i have my own reason for adoring barbie.. ;) that does'nt mean im still playing barbie doll.. nope! hahaha.. i just adore her too much! :)